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The Sunflower: On the Possibilities and Limits of Forgiveness, by Simon Wiesenthal

We invite you to a book discussion in observance of Holocaust Memorial Day – Yom HaShoah. We invite your participation and your questions. 

Lunch & Learn 

with Rabbi Vered L. Harris and Rabbi Susan E. Lippe

Thursday, April 24, 12-1pm

In-Person or Via Zoom Meeting ID 857 4813 1977

Temple B’nai Israel, Oklahoma City, OK

in observance of Holocaust Memorial Day – Yom HaShoah

Shalom, shalom. This is my list of discussion questions for a class about The Sunflower: On the Possibilities and Limits of Forgiveness, by Simon Wiesenthal (Originally published in 1969.) 

[We probably won’t get to all of these questions and/or these questions in this particular order. We are looking forward to including participants’ questions as well.]

The main question for this book is – Should Simon have forgiven the Nazi? Would you have forgiven the Nazi? That is the question that concludes the book. It seems essential to our discussion of the book, but it doesn’t have to be our first discussion question. [I would add to Wiesenthal’s question. What do you think it means that he never told the Nazi whether or not he forgave him? Would you have done it differently? Was he waiting for forgiveness or an answer?]

Does everyone deserve to die in peace? Why or why not?

What does it mean to “lose feelings?” What does it mean to “lose feelings for death?” Do you have any experience like this? What do you think they mean? OR: do you think this experience is limited to torture, trauma, and/or an attempted genocide? Why or why not? Related: Do you think the encounter with the dying Nazi re-ignite some feelings in Simon? 

Do you believe that the Nazi had truly repented? Why or why not? How would that change what you think about Simon’s response and/or your own response?

Why do you think the Nazi want Simon to have his things? Do you think Simon should have accepted them? Why or why not? Would you have accepted them? Why or why not?

What do you think about collective guilt? Wiesenthal comments on the collective guilt/shame of the Germans. “The question of Germany’s guilt may never be settled. But one thing is certain: no [contemporary] German can shrug off the responsibility. Even if he has no personal guilt, he must share the shame of it. As a member of a guilty nation, he must share the shame of it. As a member of a guilty nation he cannot simply walk away like a passenger leaving a tramcar, whenever he chooses. It is the duty of the Germans to find out who was guilty.” (93) Do you agree with Wiesenthal? Why or why not?

Personal Note: I’m offended by people who ascribe behavior to God in the Holocaust. We have no idea about what God was doing/thinking during the Holocaust. I think that it’s possible God shortened the Holocaust and/or saved a remnant of Jews, but I cannot know because I’m HUMAN. This is why this is not a question for our book discussion.

General Notes: 

So many people were affected by the Holocaust – Jewish and non-Jewish people, hetero- and homosexual people, people from all socio-economic classes, and more. We would like to share this topic/discussion with as many people as possible. Please feel free to invite any interested folks among your Jewish and non-Jewish friends and neighbors. Forgiveness is a universal value. Anyone who wishes to learn with us is welcome. Temple B’nai Israel is a welcoming place for people of color, people of any gender and/or sexuality, people with disabilities – for everyone. 

We recommend this book for readers ages 13 and up.

Talking about the Holocaust is hard. We strive to make this a calm, respectful, welcoming event focused on learning. However, talking about antisemitism, hate, murder, torture, and other events/ideas related to the Holocaust can bring up challenging emotions for anyone. We will understand if you don’t feel like talking and/or staying in the room for the full hour.

Sending Tzedakah to Israel – Getting the Biggest Bang for your Mitzvah Dollar

My friend R. Yoshi Zweiback, our teacher Danny Siegel, and my friends and colleagues at Kavod have trained me to do tzedakah in a particularly thoughtful way. [The definition of tzedakah comes from the Hebrew root tzedek – “justice.” Tzedakah is righteous giving. Jews are obligated to repair what is broken in the world. Tzedakah is doing this kind of repair with monetary donations.] Kavod embraces tzedakah organizations with low overhead. I look for organizations that use their money/donations efficiently and effectively. For example, I don’t want to pay for fancy stationery or certificates. Of course, organizations need offices and stationery, but I want most of the money to go to serving/helping people. I look for organizations with “grassroots” – responsive humans who are grounded in the work and who are responsive to the people they serve.

For those of you who want to give stuff instead of money: My father has been working in shipping and customs all over the world for 60 years. It is better to send money because: 1. It’s safer to receive money electronically than to go to the post office during a war. [Also, lots of offices including the post office close during attacks so your stuff would just sit in some storeroom.] 2. The people you are trying to help, you’ve now given them an errand to do AND they will probably have to pay customs fees AND fill out forms. 3. If you send money, you give the recipients (a.) the dignity of CHOOSING what they need/want and (b.) money for the local economy on the ground.

If a person you know can only think of stuff and/or when things start running out on the ground, it’s best to choose an organization that is sending the stuff professionally with expertise in logistics and customs. I do remember once my dad telling me about an organization sending clean drinking water to Darfur. They filled shipping containers with large military grade bags of water. Then, they left the shipping containers there for people to use as shelter. Here is group of experts making sure Israeli soldiers get what they need no matter what shortages crop up – https://my.israelgives.org/en/fundme/IsraelEmergencyFund#tab3_sec2 (from Rabbi Susan Silverman)

If someone needs to DO something, contact your elected officials and ask for their help in bringing the Israeli hostages home! https://www.nif.org/press-releases/nif-ceo-bring-them-home/ Please do not let people forget the Israeli hostages in Gaza. #bringthemhomenow #bringthemallhome

Do Read! Discuss! Educate! If someone doesn’t have money and they want to do something, I’m a big fan of study sessions with a history book or some recent articles. Education and thoughtful discussions are always good for the world. I recommend The Zionist Idea, by Hertzberg and/or haaretz.com or https://www.972mag.com/ Learning is a Jewish value. It will only make the world better.

DONATIONS: I hate this helpless feeling so….my friend Hadar, who is the most liberal Israeli I know, is my source for tzedakah organizations. She recommends: https://beactive.co.il/project/73912 – It is very responsive, very grassroots, and very Israeli. I have a good friend who has been at the Kaplan Street protests for months, and she is the one who picked this org.

I’m researching a fundraiser for Kibbutz Nir Oz. So far, it seems good. https://my.israelgives.org/en/fundme/kibbutzniroz – my Jerusalem cousin picked this one. She is heart broken about how the terrorists essentially erased the whole kibbutz. I would really like help learning more about this org – if anyone is good at research/reviews for tzedakah orgs, please comment below! Thank you!

I LOVE this organization with my whole heart – https://www.bet-uri.org.il/copy-of-home – They are a residential care facility for people with all kinds of challenges. Beit Uri is responsible and effective and wonderful. They are a grand residential care home for people of all ages who live with all kinds of special needs. At Beit Uri there are 12 bomb shelters / safe rooms that serve 130 residents and 50 staff. Some shelters are in need of renovations such as plumbing, ventilation, door frames, and doors. Your donation will certainly help with this effort.

I like UnXceptable – https://www.unxeptable.org – This is the small org, started by the people protesting at Kaplan Street week after week, month after month for JUSTICE and EQUALITY in the legal system. Lately, they’ve been more focused on sending out valuable, current information/news. [I know the spelling is annoying. I’m sorry.]

And Combatants for Peace – https://afcfp.org/ – You can trust them. I have a friend who works there. [Hi, Gili!]

For spiritual care for Israelis – I’m super interested in this organization – https://www.livuiruchani.org.il/english! If you know someone there or you can do some research, I would love to hear more. Please advise.

My Israeli cousins sent me this one – https://israeltraumacoalition.org/en/ – ITC – Israel Trauma Coalition. Their slogan is “Response. Preparedness. Resilience.” Please share this with your friends and neighbors – even if you cannot give.

I also really like this organization – United Hatzalah! https://israelrescue.org/ They have interesting stories/news on their website, and they do creative, responsive work.

Some of our friends/family/neighbors only trust big, traditional organizations with name recognition. Here are my recs for those:

NIF – try New Israel Fund! You can trust Daniel Sokatch – I’ve known him forever! Daniel’s emails are truly helpful, informative, excellent. Get on that list!

JNF has an emergency fund that people like. https://my.jnf.org/israel-resilience-campaign [My family did give them a donation in honor of my Jerusalem cousins but they are so much clunkier and slower than my first choice – Be Active. They are actually MAILING us a certificate, etc. I had already gotten my confirmation/invoice email from Be Active when JNF was actually CALLING me back to confirm something.]

MDA – This is a very concrete one – https://www.mdais.org/en – Magen David Adom provides emergency response services, ambulances, and more.

Politics & Education – If you can, please make sure everyone you know knows that AIPAC loves Republicans. Never give them your contact info or your money. If someone says something positive to me about AIPAC, I act like they said a dirty word and respond: “Honey, I think you mean NEW ISRAEL FUND (NIF). Bless your heart.

With gratitude and with prayers for peace, RSEL